It was a mistake. I didn’t mean too. It was not intentional. I didn’t mean it that way. It was my only option. I was a kid for Christ’s sake. The things people say day in and day out in order to justify their actions. Let’s just call it for what it is…a decision! People make decisions in their lives that they later on are embarrassed about, or they consider mistakes. It is the process of development and growth. These choices are what help contrive the characteristics of an individual and causes us to forgive time and time again. It is not only necessary but warranted for healthy human interaction as well as self-reflection. But what happened to forgiving ourselves? Lets be honest. Most of us are not the same people we were 10 years ago. I mean please…we aren’t the same people we were 10 days ago. As I sit here and reflect on my life and the circumstances that I have been faced with, I am filled with pride, that I have grown into the individual I am today. There is not a perfect person walking this earth and almost everyone has done or said something in which would not be considered their proudest moments (stretches arms). In some instances, we had absolutely no control over situations that arose over the course of our lives thus far, however, we cannot dwell on the past.
When you live in the past, you neglect yourself the opportunity to create a future. We spend so much time thinking about the what ifs…. What is done is done. Stop using your past as a crutch for the decisions that you are making today. Letting your past define you, never allows you the opportunity to know your full potential. You have no reason to be embarrassed by your past. Your past is what makes you you, but you can never truly move forward or be happy until you’ve taken the necessary steps to forgive yourself. Here are a few things I try on a daily basis to help me to continue to progress on my self-betterment journey:
- Taking a hard look in the mirror and asking myself am I happy with the person I have become. If you aren’t happy about something…change it. And if you can’t change it…forgive yourself and move on.
- Acknowledging all of the things in my life I have to be thankful for
- Speak it into existence…”I forgive you”
So when all else fails…reflect on your life…and remember, forgiveness is your first step of healing.
Photo Retrieved from: Dr. Ken Baker